The bottom line: talking, sharing and relating is how a woman feels good about herself.
This is why a woman is more likely to judge the sexual relationship based more on the quality of the marital relationship than on her sexual achievement. Men Are Solution-Focused; Women Are Feelings-Focused Basically, men have a much more difficult time relating to their own feelings, and may feel very threatened by the expression of feelings in their presence.
This is why I do not feel “intimate” when we are merely talking.
In other words, men and women define intimacy very differently.
This difference certainly impacts a couple’s sexual relationship.
Men often view sex as a way to secure intimacy, in that the activity of sex leads to a feeling of intimacy with his wife.
Whereas the man wants to simply “solve” the issue, his wife will want to first be heard and understood.
Instead, of solving the problem, the woman’s desire is to have her feelings and emotions validated. Men Want Activity; Women Want Relational Connection If you mention intimacy to a man, they most likely will imagine a host of things that fly in the face of what you’re thinking about. Intimacy means something entirely different to most men.